Three Reasons It’s Highly Effective To Get Your Ex Back by Going “No Contact”
Depending on how long you’ve been trying to get your ex back, or how many times you’ve tried and failed already, you’ve probably heard people talking about giving up the concerted efforts you’ve been making and going “no contact” with your ex.
At first glance that seems like a crazy plan! Right? The idea that you would be able to get your ex back by not trying to get her back sounds absolutely absurd. And yet, it works. In fact, it often works where everything else you’ve tried in the past has failed. Here are three reasons why.
1) Absence Does Make Hearts Fonder
There’s something about not being surrounded by memories, flooded by emotions, and constantly exposed to someone that makes it easier to look past the negative associations and see the positive. Once enough time has passed, the memories of arguments, fights, disagreements, and even petty annoyances fade. All that’s left are the good memories and a sense of what she really does miss about you and your relationship.
2) Time Heals Old Wounds
Even if things ended badly between you and things were said that shouldn’t have been, time has an amazing way of soothing wounds and healing broken hearts. You’ll be amazed by the types of wounds that can be healed when enough time is allowed to pass. Your ex can forgive the little things as well as the big things — even cheating. But, you have to be willing to allow the right amount of time to pass to allow that to happen. And, the bigger the grievance, the longer time will need to pass before she’s truly had time to heal.
3) She Can’t Understand What She’s Lost Until It’s Truly Gone
She’ll never understand what she’s missing out on without you in her life if you’re a constant presence in her life. It’s as simple as that. She’s never going to take you back if she gets all the benefits of your presence, support, love, and friendship, without being required to return those things. Take a break. Step away. Don’t answer when she calls. Then, wait. Wait for her to call you. Because one day she’ll realize what she’s lost and be ready to call you.
There is a trick to make this work though. You have to take a hard line about it. I’m not saying you need to go out of your way to avoid her forever, though it’s a good idea for a little while. You need to give her time and space. You need to wait long enough for her to start remembering the good and forgetting the bad. Most importantly, you need to give you both time to figure out what you want from the relationship and each other the second time around. Then, when the second chance arrives you need to take the time to make sure you’re both on the same page about your expectations for the future.